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Honoring your own cycles

Phase of the moon

My mentor and friend Veronicah Cohen of Shaman Priestess┬ásaid to me a few days ago something like “You are very cyclical in your energy.” And it was like a POW! She is right.

I get really inspired and on fire. I burn bright. I create. I post. I dance/move with ease. I am “out there” in the world.

Then I stop. I lay down under the covers. I watch YouTube and read/ Then I rest. Sometimes I stagnate. Procrastinate. Then I think. I dream. I am in my cave.

Understanding that I have cycles of create and release, and then pulling inward to be by myself and to not create is a powerful realization. It helps me to release judgement when I am not productive.

Our society is based on PRODUCTION.

If you aren’t producing, and a the rate that others want you to produce, then you are “unworthy.” And that is bullshit.

This is especially true for artists. I have had heard many times, if you don’t make art, you aren’t an artist.

This is also bullshit.

I am an artist in my bones. I create from my core. From what is flowing out of my hands, my heart, my mind, and in response to what I see, feel, touch, and know.

And sometimes that creative flow slows down. Sometimes it stops. Sometimes you need a lull in production so that you can recreate you. To switch and become the artist and creator and person you are meant to be.

I believe Osho was the one who said something like to be an artist, you must paint for 15 years. And then you spend 15 years not painting. And then you truly know how to paint.

It thought very deeply about that when I shifted from painting in encaustic (hot beeswax painting) because I lost the studio space to work in that medium. I haven’t painted in encaustic since May 2011. That is a long time to not work in the medium that calls to your heart. But I am shifting to embrace whatever it is that flows from me.

I am “Living by the Light of the Moon” as my astrology teacher Beatrex Quntanna says and getting more in touch with my own cycles, the cycles of the moon through her amazing Moon Book and Moon Class. By honoring my own cycles of rest and production, and syncing them up with the phases of the moon, the creation flows out of me with more ease and grace.

So my Expressive Dare for you is to honor your own cycles. Are you in an active phase of doing, creating, producing? Or are you in a more internal phase of being, resting, dreaming? Both are valid. Both are powerful.

Share with me below on how you honor your own energetic cycles. ~ Jaime Abalone Woman Lyerly


Goddess in everything


Today as I walked to get the interoffice mail (yes, I work a normal job), I was lost in my thoughts about the texts I read.

Like a answer to an unspoken prayer, this leaf came spiraling down from the trees I barely noticed that day.

I said “oh hello” and picked up the little treasure that was inches from my sandals on the sidewalk.

Right away I saw a beautiful, angelic Goddess in the leaf. Her strong spine, flowing hair and arms reaching out to embrace the world.

Marveling in this perfect beauty of a leaf, I became centered again in my body, and my awareness turned to the nature around me. I’m in awe.

So today, can you find the Goddess in the world around you?

She woke me up from my thoughts of the future and into the present in a snap. I would love to hear how she touches your heart today.

Much love – Jaime Abalone Woman

Dating for one

How long has it been since you took yourself out on a date?

It’s time. Now!

Remind yourself how important you are by taking yourself out for some healthy food, sunshine and time with your most important relationship – yourself!

Share with me how you take good care of yourself.

And little secret, the more happy you are with yourself, the magnetic you are to others! Amazing, huh?

Take good care of yourself! -Jaime Abalone Woman


Cheers to dating yourself!

Start where you are

Start where you are at!

In this video I make a confession about how I have been waiting.

  • Waiting to live the life I want.
  • Waiting for the right time.
  • Waiting for the right equipment.
  • Gathering and synthesizing information.
  • Waiting for someone to say YES to being on Team Jaime as Tech Guru.
  • Waiting until I feel pretty, worthy or good enough to share myself with the world.

But the waiting is over.

It is time to be myself and let that be seen.

And it is time for you to do the same!

The world needs your own brand of expression.

Your own uniqueness.

Your own voice expressed however feels good and right to you.

Blogging is easier for me. I can share with my words and paint you a picture of who I am.

But on these raw videos, you literally get to SEE me- talking, unedited, and real.

One day I will have some fancy videos. But until then, I’m starting where I am at.

So my Expressive Dare for you – start where you are at!

Make a video and toss it up on YouTube.

There are 3 trillion cat videos. Why not a video of you being your raw, authentic and therefore beautiful self?

I’d love to hear about how you are starting where you are at.

Share with me! I want to support you to be your most expressive self ever.

Aho! Jaime Abalone Woman

A Powerful Question to Ask Yourself Right Now

Hey! I’m back in the land of the living after being sick with a bad cold for a week.

I finally made it outside just to take a quick walk. I wanted to unplug for the rest of the day.

But yet after going outside, I felt inspired to make some YouTube videos on what I learned while resting and recovering.

Amazing how unplugging for one hour can be so inspirational.

I have a confession: Just before going outside I was swearing and chanting “get the fuck out” over and over.

Trapped in my house by my own choice and illness had pushed me to feeling panicked to leave. Like if I stayed any longer in my “bell jar” I would die.

So I asked myself, what do I need?

And the answer was clear: go outside. Even for five minutes. Go the fuck outside.

I listened and was so inspired.

So my challenge to you, dear one, is to ask Right Now, What do I need?

And then give it to yourself without judgment or guilt.

Share below and let’s inspire each other! -Jaime Abalone Woman

Learn to be seen

Watch “Tip #1 ~ Bust Through Your Visibility Issues with This Quick & Easy Tip!” on YouTube from my newest girl Christina Morassi from Your Ecstatic Brand

Such an easy tip to becoming a more expressive Goddess in whatever you do.

Learning to be seen can be so scary.

I know. I’ve been there and continue to live there most days.

But some days – I turn the volume up.


Some days, I stand my full 6’2″ height.

Some days I wear bright shirts, sparkly bras, and dance my full body’s expression.

Some days I forget I ever heard that I wasn’t good enough.

And those some days don’t have to be so radically different from the everyday.

It just takes practice.

Who is up to join me in this game of being seen?

Loving you as you are and as you want to be seen – Jaime Abalone Woman